holo 2

What is the point of revisiting the pain and agony of the past? Why is past so powerful that people’s memories are embedded in it all the time whether it be consciously or unconsciously? Why do we always remember that events that we should forget? Certainly, human brain cannot forget. But what is the ethical implication of revisiting the horror of the past which is Holocaust? Does it have impact to young people who as surveyed that under the age of 35, most of them are ignorant about Holocaust?
The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank depicts an episode in world history, both the degradation and nobility of human spirit. It describes the compelling impact of Anne Frank and the conditions of times she lived which offers fascinating commentary on nobility of spirit and hope equally so. She expresses them out fully which reflects that the Nazis could not take away her spirit.

Holocaust may become the fundamental course of study for thinkers and scholars worldwide in terms of literature. It expresses the human mind and heart which is full of scars and tears. Holocaust writers and producers may enchant the readers by casting spell of their unbounded imagination over us. In this sense, they inherit the true spirit of fascinating plot wherein it can get inside a character’s skin and sets us forth on their own terms.


friendship uncovered…..

friends are gifts

friends are gifts



A- Z Tips To Be Our Own Best friend

“WE CANNOT GIVE WHAT WE DON’T HAVE.” This has been an over and over cliché when people are engaged into deep and philosophical conversation. This holds true in dealing with our own self because we cannot extend ourselves when we are lost inside and when we are not in our full self. We cannot offer the gift of ourselves when we are hurting inside and in too much pain.
We cannot be a good friend when we are not friend to ourselves first. To be meaningfully connected with people, we should make our own self our best friend. Being a best friend to oneself also means accepting a whole range of relationships with promises of companionship, mutuality and happiness. My folks, we should start now reconciling with ourselves to fully experience
the gift of friendship.

Always smile- We should always flash a smile to just about anybody else to capture people’s heart. A frowning face is an excess baggage.
Bring out the best in people – Helping others unleash and excel their faculties can build bridges.
Change the way we look (at ourselves). Physical appearance is a plus factor in attracting people but self-esteem scores big points than the latter.
Dance- Life is a stage floor. We should dance to the tune of life. Flexibility is a sign of maturity.
Enjoy life- Life has no guarantee. We can never tell the future so we should enjoy it while we have it.
Forgive the culprit- Forgiving is so, so, so (the point can’t be stressed enough) hard but it can get us wayward to heaven. Imagine life without antagonists or detractors!—that would be boring! Sometimes, we become stronger and mightier when we are challenged. They are the ones who block our way and demonize us and also serve as building blocks to our emotional maturity.
Greet old friends- Reconnect with our old friends and cherish the wonderful friendship we have shared with them.
Harness our talents- Undiscovered and utilized talents are bootless. We should whip up our very own masterpiece to be productive and prosperous.
Inspire people- We should inspire others to follow their feet and make a difference in this world.
Jump- Jump with abandon to celebrate the simple pleasures of life.
Kick- Be alive and kicking. Always be on the go and be up and about to life’s opportunities.
Listen- Listen to the sound of nature like birds’ chirp, cats’ meow, dogs’ bark, wind’s murmur, water’s drop, etc.
Mention merits- Mention the good deeds of other people and pass them on to others.
No grudge- Don’t harbor grudge because it’s one of the causes of ulcer, migraine, cancer, hypertension and other illnesses. When we forgive, we do a favor to ourselves because we let go of our bitterness.
Ostracize not the different- We should learn to accept the different or odd people because they spice up their life. Imagine if we’re all the same.
Put wisdom on experiences- We should charge to experience our agenda in life and gain the lessons from it.
Quest- We should embrace the quest for true friendships. We should love our friends and accept people who come along our way.
Render service- We should be service-oriented persons to become truly beautiful not only in the outside as well as in the inside.
Sing- Sing as if nobody is listening. Sing and sing with abandon because it invites people to sing with us too. It can help us get out of our shell.
Tolerate some mistakes- Tolerance and patience in a minimum infusion can tame the wild and barbaric ones. We should generate them for this world offers no instantaneous stuffs.
Understand- Understand others to be also understood. It will create an atmosphere of mutuality and affection.
Videotape in mind the good memories- The good old days should not stay buried. We should scroll down those memory lanes. Nostalgic moments are worth keeping a record of.
Wander places- Trade place where we could improve ourselves. We should take charge of our expeditions provided that the environment is conducive for growth.
X- amine our life- Unreflected life is as good as death. We should re-asses what is happening to us. It won’t help to make people fall in love with us when we don’t even know who we really are.
Yearn for transcendental experience- Getting and being spiritual can drive people to love us.
Zealously beautify ourselves- Beauty and sexiness are not everything…… but looks are something to possess. An iota of vanity should be dissolved because superficial beauty slips away rapidly. We should at least be presentable and well-groomed enough when we go out.




defense mechanisms




1. Suppression- we consciously control our negative experiences. E.g. – we don’t want to bring out in conversations our unpleasant past. Can we possess a desirable personality if we hide bitterly our negative experiences?

Peter: Hey, you’re like that again. It seems history repeats itself. Remember last year when we are all pissed off because of what you do? Bullet: Don’t lecture me. I will slap your face if you ever mention that. I don’t want to hear that again. There’s no need to rehash that.

2. Repression- we convince ourselves that problems don’t exist. We don’t do anything to solve or lessen them. Can we possess a desirable personality if we pretend that there’s no problem?

Bullet: Why did you come back? Care to tell what’s the next lie you will tell?
“Coz I know you’re such an amazingly excellent manipulative and psychotic individual you’ve become and I will give you an Oscar award for that!
Mik: God, since when did you become hot? I love your new physique,., so dashing and smoldering.
Bullet: Why did you come back?
Mik: I came back for you. You love me once, you can love me again. We have no problem now because I am here now.
Bullet: But you cheated on me and you broke my trust.
Mik: My boo, kiss me or kill me?

3. Identification- we imagine ourselves that we are another person whom we emulate or want to be like. Can we possess a desirable personality if we don’t own our individuality?

Mik: I don’t want to jeopardize your bruised ego Bullet, but it’s for your best. You’re wearing that wardrobe again. It doesn’t suit your personality. You’re trying hard and you’re turning into dumb, jack ass. You would like to belong in that group because they are popular? How far would you go to be with them?
Bullet: With all honesty, I want to belong in that group! I think they’re popular, cool and hip.

4. Displacement- we direct our anger or grudge toward objects or persons. Can we possess a desirable personality if we place our negative emotions toward objects or persons?

Peter is singing Empty by Click Five…… try to take a picture of love, hmmmm, but it’s empty.
Bullet: Stop singing, don’t you see I’m all screwed up. I kind of had a huge emotional connection to that …… I hate her. Every inch of my soul screams hatred (while he crumpled the paper and slammed the door hardly).

5. Denial- we deny our emotions when we can’t tolerate them. Can we possess a desirable personality if we deny the truth?

Bullet: A beautiful disaster it has been. Sometimes, woooh……… give me something bad, and I’ll tell you how it might be good.
Peter: I can’t think, I’m an idiot for a moment. Are you okay?
If you want to have some talk, I’m around.
Bullet: Break-up, I’m all good.
Peter: Please don’t hold back your tears. You need to cry, it’s okay because you have to. Sometimes you need to be strong to admit you’re weak, I won’t judge you for that ‘coz our hearts our broken and ripped off sometimes.
Bullet: I’m really okay, I’m all good. I have no problem!

6. Projection- we attribute our negative traits and motives to another. Can we possess a desirable personality when we point out our unwanted characteristics to other people?

Peter: Let’s join them.
Mik: I don’t like the girl. I despise her and her presence is an annoyance to me. She’s a flirt and the flirtiest of the flirt.
Bullet: Don’t be offended by me but you’re the Goddess of the
flirt also. You’re irritated with her because it’s more suitable for her to be flirt, so pretty and charming. I can’t blame her to be flirting around when you wish you are also doing the same thing. Hmmm, life is too short to live it as an envious person.

7. Sour Grape – we tell that grape is sour when we don’t get what we want. Can we possess a desirable personality when we mask our real feelings and find fault in someone or something when we fail?

Mik: Oh, I enjoyed watching Felicity. I think Ben should be out of the picture because I much preferred Noel and Felicity. Before I forgot, I love One tree Hill. I think Nathan is so hot and delicious.
Kind of remind me of something beautiful and sexy. By the way, what’s your grade in World Literature?
Bullet: Oh! It’s okay. I didn’t get a high grade on that subject. Anyway, it’s just a minor subject. Apparently enough, it’s not really important, my course is Architecture.

8. Sweet Lemon- we tell that lemon is sweet when we get what we don’t want. Can we possess a desirable personality when we mask our real feelings and pretend that we’re always fine?

Mik: Oh, congratulations! For winning the second place. You’re amazing. It seems we gonna drink some wine tonight!
Bullet: Nope, I won’t be the second best. You see that judge; she doesn’t know how to judge. She has no taste at all and she really sucks!

9. Fantasy- we seek escape from real world through imagination. Can we possess a desirable personality when we over-engaged in fantasy?

Peter: Hey, what’s up? Are you through with our project?
Bullet: I’ve been dreaming of charming and sexy Sophia Bush as my exclusive date. I can see and feel her in the trappings of romantic world. A beautiful enchantress she is to me. Gosh, I can’t concentrate on my project.

Illustrative image of sub conscious level

Illustrative image of sub conscious level